Shadow Work Series - Part 3

HEAL YOURSELF

Not deserving love is the consequence of our child’s “logical” mind.
But what caused it was being forbidden to ask for love.

According with the cognitive-behavioral psychology (Carl Jung), we need to forget us for rejecting a part of us, and for thinking that part of us was wrong. We also have to integrate that part on us again for good.

How can we do that? Reliving the memory and altering it by seeing your grown up you in the memory as well, comforting and loving the child you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3V_Gtfr_YA&t=5s

* This is only a guidance from my experience, for you to understand the process, you must do the steps your own way*

So, go to that moment when your mom forbade you to ask for love:

- Take a sit in front of a mirror (close enough to see yourself up close).
- Relax, take a deep breath.
- Look at yourself in the mirror, through the eyes.
- Look for your child in your reflection, in your eyes.  Look at yourself, observe you. With no judgement. Do not look at your face, look inside of you.

- Close your eyes and meditate.
- Go to the moment when your mom forbade you to ask for love, the memory you recovered on meditation.
- See your grownup-self inside the memory, you are near to your child-self.
- Recognize your child-self feelings: fear of not deserve love, fear of mom not loving you, fear of disappear.
- It is only a little child who needs love.
- Feel the compassion, feel the unconditional love towards your child-self.
- Hug you, tell you you are worthy, you deserve love.
- Ask you for forgiveness.
- Forgiveness for mistreat yourself, for banned yourself, for deny yourself.
- Tell you how much you love you.

- Open your eyes
- Look at your integrated you in the mirror.
- Say “hi”
- Observe you.
- Embrace you.
- Celebrate you and allow your child to come out and play a bit.

* I played a song from my childhood and danced it like I was 3 years old, letting go everything, every pain, every doubt, every fear. *